Revealed: The Thing Brits Fear The Most
tombola, Britain’s biggest bingo site decided to find out what Brits are most afraid of. We conducted a survey across the British public to investigate what’s keeping them terrified.
86% Of Brits Have A Fear Or Phobia
It turns out that 86% of Brits have a fear or phobia of some kind, and the thing that’s scaring us the most? Being buried alive.
With a shocking 74% of Brits ranging from “slightly afraid” to “terrified”, being buried alive tops our terror list.
When looking at regions in the UK, many of us are most afraid of being buried alive, but there are some differences. In London for example, the top fear is snakes, while in Northern Ireland it’s rats.
Sally Baker, a senior therapist from workingonthebody.com in London says, “It’s not surprising that the top fear is the primal fear of being buried alive (87%), or "Taphophobia" to give it its official name. It’s also not surprising that it is closely aligned with a phobia of small or enclosed spaces (60%). This is a learned and ancient fear with references found as far back as Roman times when convulsions, seizures or fevers could cause people to experience a comatose or near-dead state. It is feasible that with only the most rudimentary medical understanding that misdiagnoses were made and that premature burial, or worse did take place.
She goes on to say that “Fears and phobias are the brain’s way of keeping us safe. This is especially true of fears of darkness (47%), water (38%), and thunder and lightning (35%) which would have seemed other-worldly and inexplicable to our early ancestors as they foraged and hunted at the beginning of time itself.”
Are Women More Afraid Than Men?
Our survey data showed that women considered themselves afraid of the top ten terrors we listed, more often than men, but why is this? According to Adam Cox, a Harley Street Hypnotherapist, “women are more likely to admit their fears than men and also more likely to seek help.”
Adam adds that “Men can feel vulnerable if their fear is known as it exposes them to the possibility of ridicule or that someone will confront them with their fear, which conflicts with gender stereotypes of men being strong and in control.” This can also show up in the workplace, where managers and leaders are meant to be in control and unflappable. Adam says “This may not be the case if everyone is aware of what seems like an irrational fear.”
57% of Brits Have Had Their Fear For More Than 20 Years
Whether a fear is hardwired or learned, there are many ways to overcome it and so it’s perhaps a sad discovery that over half of Brits have suffered with some type of fear or phobia for more than 20 years. Even more disturbing is that similar numbers keep their fears a secret.
Almost Half Of Brits Keep Their Fears A Secret
Fears and phobias are quite a normal response by the brain to anything it might find threatening. Yet the brain can sometimes overreact, causing the fear to be disproportionate to the actual threat. Despite it being a very human response, almost half of the people we surveyed said that they kept their fear or phobia a secret from most people. Interestingly however, it’s the xennial generation that seems most secretive. Those aged between 25 – 44 accounted for more than half of those choosing to keep their fear hidden. Those younger or older are more open with their friends and family. Those under 18 or over 65 showed the least secrecy at 1 and 2% respectively.
Nabeel Khalid, a digital marketer from London has a fear or grasshoppers he calls “irrational”. He says, “I have had to divulge this fear to my partner who does emasculate me about it and that is why I keep it hidden as much as possible”. When asked if he had tried any treatment to help overcome the fear, such as cognitive behavioural therapy or hypnosis, he was hesitant. “I haven’t yet used anything of the sort. Not sure if I’d use hypnosis even to help me quit smoking – maybe I have trust issues” he muses. Ultimately however, he doesn’t think that the phobia affects his life enough to try something that he calls “drastic”.
Xennials Are The Most Scared Generation
The results of the survey showed that xennials are the most fearful. Those aged between 25 and 44 made up more than half of those who reported having some kind of fear or phobia. The least scared were those under 18, which suggests that most of our fears are learned behaviours. The good news about that, is that anything we can learn, can be unlearnt too.
Practical Ways To Manage Fears And Phobias
If you suffer from a phobia, it might be helpful to know a few things about what’s happening to your body, so that you don’t panic even more.
Senior therapist Sally Baker explains that the first thing that happens to your body when you go into fear mode, is that your breathing becomes unregulated. 'Typically, you either go into hyper-breathing which is fast, shallow breathing or you hold your breath as if in shock. Both these ways of breathing exacerbate your feelings of panic and make you feel worse.”
Sally says “It is crucial to get your breathing back into a regular, natural rhythm as quickly as possible. The easiest way to do this is to tap with a soft fist around your collarbone. This is a Meridian Energy tapping point that helps you to feel grounded and safe. As you tap around begin to breath deeper and slower until your breath is back to normal.”
If you’re a black and white thinker or a catastrophic thinker for that matter who always imagines the worst-case scenario, you’ll be relieved to know you can retrain your thinking to be more rational, measured and helpful to you. Sally advises that “it takes just 21 days to embed a new way of thinking. You just need to practice reframing your thoughts instead of letting your old fears and phobias control your thinking.”
Harley Street Hypnotherapist, Adam Cox gave us his advice on how to combat your fears and phobias.
Top 5 Tips To Tackle Your Fears
1. Educate yourself – Many fears come from ignorance, the more you understand your fear the easier it is to defeat it.
2. Develop a curiosity or fascination – It’s possible to find something interesting or fascinating in any area. Once you find something intriguing it changes your associations with the trigger of your fear. A fear of snakes can be helped by finding out that the gender of snakes can be determined by the temperature of the eggs for example.
3. Use your imagination – It’s possible to perceive your fear in different ways by changing the size, shape, colour etc of the images you make in your mind. There are a wide number of techniques that can reduce the fear simply by how you think of the stimulus.
4. See a phobia specialist or hypnotherapist – There are experts that can help you cure a phobia in a single session or single workshop.
5. Do the thing you fear - When I was scared of heights I booked a sky dive. When I was scared of public speaking I took up stand-up comedy. To quote Ralph Waldo Emerson – “if you do the thing you fear the death of fear is certain”.
Our brains are so complicated that fears can be literally anything. If you’re thinking you’re alone, you are most definitely not. Some of the other phobias that came up in our survey were cotton wool, clowns, choking, needles, beans, ventriloquists’ dummies, ladybirds and big noses.
Adam went on to say “These days there are proven techniques to deal with fears and phobias so nobody has to live with a fear they don’t want. The key question to ask is whether the fears you have are useful or not. If they aren’t then you can change them.”
Adam continued, “It’s also, it’s very empowering to break through a fear. Once you consistently break through fears the world is a place full of opportunity as it’s fears that stop most people pursuing their goals and dreams.”
If you’re looking to tackle your fears in the craziest way possible, take a look at our article on Facing Your Fears Around The World.
To find out more information on counselling for fears and phobias, check out the Counselling Directory.