Ever wondered what makes a friendship stand the test of time? Well, wonder no more! Yvette Price-Mear and Edwin Horne, the winners of Britain’s Best Friend of the Year, have revealed what it is that keeps their friendship going strong after 48 years!
Don’t get lazy
Every relationship needs to be nurtured. You get out what you put in, and that’s not just with partners; it’s important that you’re willing to put time and effort into a friendship on an ongoing basis for it to really work.
Always keep them laughing
One of Yvette’s favourite things about Edwin is that he can always make her laugh. (In Edwin’s opinion, it’s usually at him, rather than with him!) As well as being one of Yvette and Edwin’s top tips, it’s also been scientifically proven that laughter does indeed make friendship last longer – so get your giggle on guys!
Be there through the good and bad
If your friend is going through a rough time, they might not be much fun to spend time with, but it’s important that you take the rough with the smooth if you want to make your friendship last. Friendships that only revolve around having fun together aren’t usually particularly deep or meaningful. Don’t be a fair-weather friend – make sure you’re there for your friend when they need you most.
Be sure to listen
If a friend has a problem but they’re struggling to tell you how they feel, they might dance around the subject. Perhaps it’s difficult to discuss or they’re scared of looking vulnerable, but whatever the reason, it’s important to listen carefully and recognise when your friend is acting differently to spot the tell-tale signs.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Every relationship has its ups and downs, and there’s no doubt that you’ll have your disagreements. When this happens though, try not to let it bother you too much. Sometimes it’s useful to take a step back and remind yourself that it’s human nature to have differing opinions – you can’t see eye-to-eye-on everything!
Enjoy comfortable silences
You don’t always need to make conversation just for the sake of it. If you meet your friend after a long day at work for example, and you’re both drained, it’s perfectly acceptable to want to enjoy each other’s company without having to make conversation. There’s no need to force it.
Finally, and most importantly, be yourself. It’s pointless trying to be something you’re not. Sooner or later, your true colours will show, and it’s important that they like you for the person you really are, rather than someone you’re trying to be. Try and be as honest as you can – not just with them, but with yourself!
Look out for more handy tips and advice from our friendship gurus coming soon!