When Should I Tell My Children?

There comes a time in every parent’s life when they’re faced with a question from their child that they simply don’t know how to answer.

Whatever the issue, there’s no getting around it. Kids are super sleuths and with TV, mobile phones and social media, they are even more astute than ever.

When should you tell your child the truth about Santa? When should you stop giving them pocket money? When should you tell them about the birds and the bees? Is there even a right time?

We surveyed the Great British public to find out when other parents have had these conversations with their children. To find out the results, check out our interactive survey.  

We’ve also researched the different ways to answer those delicate questions.

When should I tell my child that the bogeyman doesn’t exist?

The bogeyman. Often used by parents as a tool to get them to go to sleep or sometimes though, the fear can go too far and kids can become a little too scared.

Tips on how to get rid of this fear from Little Rock Family include fighting scary with silly. You can ask your child to draw the thing they fear and then give the picture a silly makeover. A funny hat, big ears, floppy shoes and a tutu can make a frightening monster look comedic. Encouraging your child to imagine the monster slipping on a banana peel or tripping over their floppy shoes can also help them to exercise the powerfulness of their imagination.  

When should you stop giving your child pocket money?

If you choose to give your child pocket money, you may be wondering when the best time to stop is. Is it when they get a job or when they reach a certain age perhaps? You might want to treat your child or use it to help them learn about finances. 

Use pocket money as a learning tool

There’s no right or wrong way to introduce pocket money, but some information from Onefamily.com advises that using it as a tool to help your child learn is a great way to help you figure out when to start and stop.  

The site says that the lessons your child can learn through pocket money are endless, but as they grow older, they should gain more of an understanding that money is usually earned and get to know about saving and spending wisely. So, when they do start moving into the world of work and begin earning through a job, the need for pocket money will naturally decrease.

When should you tell your child the truth about Santa?

It could be Santa, it could be the Tooth Fairy or the Easter bunny, but when the question of existence of these characters arises, it can be a little sad. We found some excellent advice from Good Housekeeping on how to keep the magic alive. 

Everyone is Santa

In this example, the parent ties the new-found knowledge into growing up. They then reveal that Santa Claus represents the spirit of unselfish giving and goodwill, and so technically, everyone can be Santa. The child is encouraged to embrace becoming a Santa themselves, by passing on good deeds and Christmas spirit, but they have to keep it secret, like everyone else and especially from those younger who may not “be ready” to be a Santa yet themselves.

The great thing about this idea, is that it demolishes the notion that it was all a big lie. There really is truth to it and a little more kindness and goodwill in the world can never be wrong.

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